7 Ways to Repel a Narcissist

Mary Carter
2 min readAug 29, 2024

Protect Yourself from Toxic Relationships

Setting clear boundaries is key to protecting yourself against narcissists. I learned this the hard way with an extremely cruel ex-boyfriend.

He used to humiliate me in front of my family, criticizing my appearance or intelligence. At home, he controlled everything, from what I wore to who I talked to.

Fortunately, I found the courage to say enough.

Now, I apply these strategies not only in personal relationships but also at work and with narcissistic people who are part of my social circle. Here are the most effective tactics:

  1. Firm boundaries: A narcissist hates when we set clear boundaries. Say “I don’t accept being spoken to like that” or “I need space when we argue.”
  2. Demand accountability: Narcissists are terrible at taking responsibility. Be alert if someone is always blaming others and never admits their own mistakes.
  3. Value genuine vulnerability: A narcissist rarely shows true vulnerability. If there’s no genuine sharing of fears and insecurities, question why.
  4. Seek real empathy: Genuine empathy is kryptonite to narcissists. They might try to imitate it, but true empathy is something they simply can’t consistently do.
  5. Value yourself: The more…

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Mary Carter

I share candid reflections on love, sex, and life's ups and downs, no holds barred and no taboos.