Are Our Grandparents Right, Or Are We Romanticizing Imperfect Memories?

The Past: A Lost Paradise or Illusion?

Mary Carter
4 min readSep 14, 2024

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“Back in the day, things were better.”

How many times have I heard this phrase from my grandparents, parents, or older relatives? It’s like a nostalgic refrain echoing through generations, a lament for what was and no longer is. But was the past really better, or are we just looking back through rose-colored glasses?

Sitting on my grandmother’s porch, I watch the sunset paint the sky in warm hues. The aroma of a slowly cooking stew wafts from the stove, mingling with the scent of roses from the garden. It’s a moment of peace, a connection to the past. And it’s in these moments that I wonder: was the past really better?

Nostalgia and Its Traps

My grandmother, with her tired but still bright eyes, tells me stories of a time that no longer exists. She speaks of neighbors who would gather for dinner without notice, of children playing in the streets until sundown, of an era when doors were left unlocked and trust was the common currency.

But does this idyllic vision of the past correspond to reality? Or has time softened the edges of memories, leaving only the golden glow of happy moments?

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Mary Carter

I share candid reflections on love, sex, and life's ups and downs, no holds barred and no taboos.