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Do This For 20 Minutes Before Having Sex
The Lost Art of Time and Connection That No One Talks About
After years of learning from intimate relationship experts, especially Dr. Susan Bratton, I’ve discovered an uncomfortable truth affecting us all: we’re killing our sex life with rush. Our bodies need time, and we’re completely ignoring that.
The problem isn’t a lack of desire or chemistry — it’s our inability to give time to the body’s natural process.
Most couples today approach sex like they’re running a 100-meter sprint when it should be more like a slow, sensual dance. The female body, scientifically proven, needs 20–30 minutes to reach the ideal state of physical and emotional preparation.
During this time, a real transformation happens: blood flow increases, tissues become more sensitive, and emotional connection deepens. But who’s really giving their body this time?
When was the last time you dedicated 20 complete minutes just to building the moment?
Without thinking about the end result, without pressure to “get there,” without expectations. Just presence, touch, connection. Most people can’t remember.
And that’s where the problem lies.
