Does Your Kiss Have A Price?

Mary Carter
3 min readJul 27, 2024

The Hidden Dilemma in Modern Marriages

You know that couple friend you’ve had for years, the ones who always seem to have the perfect marriage? Well, sometimes looks can be deceiving. A close friend recently opened up to me about her marriage, and I’ve got to say, I was shocked.

She told me she can barely kiss her husband without him taking it as an invitation for sex. “It’s like every touch is a contract,” she said, frustrated. “I can’t even give a hug without him thinking it’s going to lead to something more.”

And it’s not just this couple. I’ve been noticing this with several couples in our circle. It’s like there’s this unspoken expectation that any show of affection has to lead to sex. It’s as if affection has become a form of currency.

The worst part is seeing how it affects the couple’s dynamic. My friend admitted that sometimes she pretends to be asleep just to avoid any contact. “I love my husband,” she said, “but sometimes I feel like my body isn’t my own.”

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Mary Carter

I share candid reflections on love, sex, and life's ups and downs, no holds barred and no taboos.