Emotional Dependency Doesn’t Exist

Your “I Can’t Live Without You” is Pure Childishness

Mary Carter
2 min read3 days ago

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Emotional dependency doesn’t exist — it’s fear of growing up. We call it love when it’s pure terror of facing adult life.

Modern psychology proves: we only need others to survive during childhood. After that, any “need” for another person is a conscious choice to remain infantile.

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Brilliant, capable, and talented people waste years in toxic relationships using this emotional dependency excuse. The entertainment industry profits from selling the idea that true love is all-consuming.

Lie. Mature love is being with someone by choice, not necessity.

Stanford University data:

  • 67% higher probability of depression in “emotional dependents”
  • 89% more likely to stay in abusive relationships
  • 7 years on average wasted in dead-end relationships

This supposed emotional dependency is a habit, not a disease. You stay in a toxic relationship because:

  • You fear facing adult life
  • You never learned to be alone
  • You prefer familiar misery to the challenge of growth

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Mary Carter

I share candid reflections on love, sex, and life's ups and downs, no holds barred and no taboos.