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How Can Someone Cheat and Still Think You Should Be the One Apologizing?
When the cheater thinks they’re right and you’re the crazy one
The audacity of it all is almost poetic. You discover the betrayal, your world crumbles, and you still have to hear that it’s your fault because you “reacted badly.” As if there’s an etiquette manual for discovering you’ve been cheated on.
Apparently, we should thank them and apologize for ruining someone else’s magical moment.
This reality inversion is the new normal in modern relationships. Cheaters have developed an extraordinary ability to transform themselves into victims, in a performance worthy of Broadway’s finest. The problem is this isn’t a play — these are our real lives.
The manipulation is so subtle and progressive that before we know it, we’re questioning our own sanity. We start doubting whether we even have the right to be hurt. It’s like having your wallet stolen and then being made to feel guilty for not having handed it over voluntarily.
The most fascinating part is the elaborate construction of justifications. “You worked too much,” “You were always busy,” “You didn’t give me enough attention.” Extraordinary how they can transform their conscious choices into inevitable consequences of our actions.
