I Don’t Know How to F*ck My Wife Anymore

When the Bedroom Becomes a Battlefield

Mary Carter
8 min readSep 23, 2024

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Photo by Alex Green

The passion has cooled.

Desire has withered.

Now what?

What do you do when sex becomes a frustrating puzzle?

“ I can’t take it anymore. I don’t know what to do.”

His voice trembled on the phone.

Twelve years of friendship, and I’d never heard him like this.

“After the baby, everything changed. It’s like… like we don’t know how to make love anymore.”

Couples everywhere face this dilemma.

You’re not alone, but you feel isolated. Ashamed.

Unable to speak.

Twelve years of marriage.

A two-year-old baby. And suddenly, it’s like you’re strangers in bed.

“It used to be easy, you know? Now? It’s a nightmare.”

The words tumbled out. The shame was palpable.

You try. She tries. But nothing works. It’s a vicious cycle of disappointment and frustration.

Initiating becomes a burden. You hesitate, fearing rejection. She waits, wishing to be desired.

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Mary Carter

I share candid reflections on love, sex, and life's ups and downs, no holds barred and no taboos.