Is Your Partner the Best You’ve Ever Had? (Sexually Speaking)

A young woman’s reflections on intimacy, honesty, and expectations in new relationships

There I was with my boyfriend yes, it’s recent, we’ve been together for a few months having one of those relaxed conversations after dinner.

Suddenly, he turns to me and drops the bomb: “Babe, am I the best you’ve ever had? Sexually speaking, of course.”

Wow. I felt my heart skip a beat.

I wasn’t expecting that question at all. What would you answer?

I’ll be honest with you. He isn’t. He’s not the best I’ve ever had, sexually speaking. But I looked him in the eyes and told him yes, he was.

Now I’m wondering: did I do the right thing?

Was it wrong?

And more importantly, how many of us have been through this?

Sex is important in a relationship, isn’t it?

Especially in a new one, when everything is exciting and you’re discovering each other. It’s that energy that makes you feel alive, desired, connected. But is it everything?