Love Without Sex Exists And You Need To Accept It

Social Pressure Doesn’t Define Our Intimacy

Photo by Carlos Santiago

I’ve been thinking a lot about how society constantly pushes us to believe that relationships are only valid when sex is involved. I grew up hearing this everywhere, in conversations with friends, in movies, in magazines… A collective brainwashing that makes us question our own nature when we don’t fit into this predefined model of intimacy.

It’s like a movie played a thousand times, like those boring TV shows. Always the same old story, always the same tired talk about how we should be and act.

Sometimes I feel like an alien when I confess that I don’t always want to have sex. It’s as if there’s a secret manual that everyone received except me, dictating the ideal frequency, the right positions, the appropriate moments.

An invisible script we’re supposedly meant to follow to be considered “normal” or “healthy” in a relationship.

I get totally lost when people look at me like I have two heads just because I’m not always in the mood. Geez, I’m not some programmed machine!

For years, I carried a silent guilt for not feeling that overwhelming desire that everyone seems to have. I questioned if something was wrong with me, if I was broken inside, if I really…