Self-Love is Not Selfishness
Learn to love yourself without guilt
Do you swallow hard when you say no to someone?
For years, I swallowed too. I was trapped in that silly idea that I needed to please everyone, that my needs always came last. I called it kindness, but it was just disguised fear.
It took me a while to realize that setting boundaries is not selfishness — it’s survival. The first time I said “no” without explaining myself, I felt horrible. My stomach turned, my hands sweated.
But something interesting happened: the world didn’t end. And better yet: people started respecting me more.
The real transformation began in my intimacy. I learned to look in the mirror without criticizing every detail. I started exploring my body without judgment, discovering what gave me pleasure without guilt. It was liberating to realize that I can be sensual for myself, not just to please others.
In my relationships, I stopped accepting crumbs. If someone doesn’t treat me the way I deserve, I show them the door without drama. Before, I used to try to fix people, now I understand that I’m not an emotional repair shop. Self-love is knowing that I deserve someone who’s already got their pieces in place.
