She Fucked Up His Life

Love Doesn’t Justify This Shit

Mary Carter
4 min readNov 12, 2024

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You know that intense love, the one that makes us believe we’ve found the right person? Now imagine discovering that person has been manipulating you for months, maybe years, to get something you clearly said you didn’t want.

Photo by Gabriel Dias

And no, I’m not talking about a common betrayal — I’m talking about something much deeper and more disturbing.

I recently came across a story that made my blood boil. A couple, together for 6 years, with a seemingly perfect life. He was always honest about not wanting kids.

She agreed. Until one day, he discovered she had stopped taking birth control for months. Months! And she kept making love to him, looking him in the eyes, saying she loved him, while blatantly lying about something that could change his life forever.

If a man poked holes in condoms or lied about having a vasectomy, we’d all be up in arms.

And rightfully so!

So why is it when a woman does this, there’s always someone trying to justify it? “Oh, she just wants to be a mother,” “Her biological clock is ticking,” “She did it out of love”… No, no, and no!

Love isn’t manipulation.

Love isn’t lying.

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Mary Carter
Mary Carter

Written by Mary Carter

I share candid reflections on love, sex, and life's ups and downs, no holds barred and no taboos.

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