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The One Thing Men Fear More Than Being Bad in Bed

And it’s not what you think it’s much worse

6 min readJul 16, 2025

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You think men are scared of not being able to make you come? Please. That’s just the appetizer.

The real terror, the one that keeps them awake at night, is much deeper and much more devastating. Men are mortally afraid of being discovered.

Not discovered cheating.

Not discovered lying about dick size.

But discovered as they really are inside: lost, insecure, and completely clueless about what they’re doing in life.

Sex is just the tip of the iceberg.

The real fear is that you’ll discover that confident man who fucks you with such determination is actually pretending to know what he’s doing in every aspect of life.

Think about it for a second.

When a man is bad in bed, his ego gets bruised, yeah.

But when a woman discovers he’s an emotional fraud? That’s when his world completely collapses.

They’d rather you think they’re terrible lovers a thousand times over than discover they’re human beings with fears, doubts, and insecurities like

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Mary Carter
Mary Carter

Written by Mary Carter

Love and sex without bullshit, raw texts + practical tools for adults tired of sweet promises. https://substack.com/@aboutsex?utm_source=user-menu

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