When the Past Knocks on Your Marriage’s Door

A Story of Love, Betrayal, and Second Chances

Mary Carter
3 min readOct 16, 2024

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35 years of marriage. Three children. Grandchildren. An entire life built together. And suddenly, you discover that your partner is still hung up on a past love. How would you react?

This is the real story of a couple going through this right now. She’s 56, he’s 60. Sounds like the perfect scenario for a peaceful retirement, right? But the reality is quite different.

Three years ago, the wife caught her husband on a dating site. They went to couples therapy, tried to work things out. But now, she’s discovered that he’s searching for an ex-girlfriend from 40 years ago.

What’s most shocking about this story?

Maybe it’s the fact that he admitted, several times throughout their marriage, that he still loved this ex. Or maybe it’s the fact that he’s planning a trip to see his brother… who just happens to live in the same area as this ex-girlfriend.

Put yourself in this woman’s shoes for a moment. Your husband is making travel plans with you for 2025, talking about where you’ll live when you retire. And at the same time, he’s sending daily messages to another woman, saying he misses her.

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Mary Carter

I share candid reflections on love, sex, and life's ups and downs, no holds barred and no taboos.