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Why Many Women Feel Nothing During Sex
What’s really behind it
There was a woman in my life who told me something I never forgot: “During sex, I feel like I’m floating on the ceiling, looking down and seeing two people I don’t know.”
She was describing dissociation.
And she didn’t even know it.
Most women live this.
They’re there, physically present, but their mind is somewhere else. They’re making a grocery list. They’re thinking if they moaned loud enough.
They’re calculating how much time is left until it’s over.
They’re analyzing whether their partner is enjoying it. They’re everywhere except in their own body.
Because being in the body can be dangerous.
Being in the body means feeling. And feeling means being vulnerable. And vulnerability, for many women, is synonymous with danger.
It’s not paranoia.
It’s ancestral wisdom.
The female body holds memories that the mind has forgotten.
Generations of women who were taught that their pleasure doesn’t matter. Generations who learned that resisting hurts…
